We began supplementing, but as he grew and needed more milk I just couldn’t keep up and eventually had to completely wean him. The Lord was extremely gracious in that time and showed me that it was okay to not nurse Beckham. (That’s another story for another time.) But over the past two months since he has been completely weaned I would still find myself questioning God’s goodness over this issue. When it all started I would pray “God I know you are completely sovereign and completely powerful, so You can fix this. Please fix this.” He never did. The enemy then took that understanding of God’s sovereignty and used it to put doubt into my mind about God’s goodness. “If God is completely sovereign and completely powerful, why didn’t He fix it? He mustn’t love you because He knows you are trying to do what is best for your child.” I bought into that lie and would still find myself questioning God’s goodness.
Yesterday, as I was thinking about it again while giving Beckham his bottle, the Lord opened my eyes to see that I have been deceived by the enemy. I immediately repented and asked the Lord to give me a different understanding of the situation. I wasn’t asking Him to show my why He never corrected the nursing issue. I wanted to see His goodness in the situation and be able to trust Him with it. The Lord answered that prayer very quickly and I would love to share what He taught me yesterday.
When Jesus was in the Garden of Gethsemane, He knew what was going to happen to Him because He understood what the different prophecies said about His death. He was “grieved and distressed” and went off to pray (Matt 26:37,39). His prayer is so powerful, “My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me; yet not as I will, but as You will” (Matt 26:39). A little later He prayed, “My Father, if this cannot pass away unless I drink it, Your will be done” (Matt 26:42). Jesus did not want to undergo the suffering, humiliation, and shame He was about to face, but He entrusted Himself to the Father and knew He had to be obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross (Phil 2:8). But it is one thing to pray this way; it is another to live it out when faced with suffering. Jesus did just that.
Immediately after this moment in the garden, Judas arrived with a mob to arrest Jesus. He was taken to the high priest, scribes, and elders who held a trial to condemn Jesus to death. They brought false witness after false witness into the trial, but “Jesus kept silent” (Matt 26:59-63). Then He was taken before Pilate and again “He did not answer him with regard to even a single charge…” (Matt 27:14). Why? Because Jesus knew that if the Father wanted to save Him, He could. He knew that His life was in the Father’s hands and He was going to be obedient to the Father’s will no matter what (Matt 26:53-54). If Jesus had answered their questions and proved they were false witnesses, then He could have been released and the scriptures would not have been fulfilled. But instead, “while being reviled, He did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting Himself to Him who judges righteously” (1 Peter 2:23). Jesus gave Himself fully over to the Father’s will knowing that His Father was completely sovereign, completely powerful, and completely righteous in everything He does.
So how does this relate to nursing? I realized that if Jesus endured the ultimate suffering trusting His Father through it all, then I could suffer through bottle feeding as well. I can trust the Lord to judge righteously and know that just as He saw it was best to not save Jesus from the cross, He saw it was best to not fix the nursing issue. I don’t have to live in fear that I won’t be able to nurse any future children we might have, but I can pray for the Lord’s will and trust it to be good. For “He Himself bore our sins in His body on the cross, so that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds you were healed” (1 Peter 2:24). Isn’t that the point after all? Jesus died on the cross so that I would die to sin (and my sinful desires) and live to righteousness. He didn’t die so that I would become His child and then get everything that I want (because most of the time they are sinful desires). He died so that I would live right before Him by faith trusting that He knows way more than I ever will. He died so that I would entrust myself to the Father just as Jesus did.
Such peace filled my heart yesterday when the Lord gave me this understanding. I now have truth to hold onto and a greater appreciation for my Savior who fully entrusted Himself to the Father’s will without question. May that be the cry of my heart “not my will, but Your will be done.”